Anything can happen, that’s why we need to minimize argument most especially when your partner is temperamental.
But we need to understand each other well before being committed. I think I have to stop from here.
Imagine, little argument, your partner just plug teeth on your flesh and bite you like this when your wedding day is around the corner.
Be Sincere,
What Would You Do?
Following the recent incidents being reported in the Presidential Villa, leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra, IPOB, Nnamdi Kanu, has told Biafrans to get ready to leave Nigeria sooner than later.
Nnamdi Kanu was reacting to the reports of gunshots at the Presidential Villa involving Nigeria’s First Lady, Dr. Aisha Buhari, members of her immediate family, her Aide-de-camp, Usman Shugaba and Sabiu Yusuf, a Special Assistant to President Muhammadu Buhari.
Recall that following the death of Abba Kyari, President Buhari’s former Chief of Staff, Nnamdi Kanu had declared that Aisha Buhari is now in charge of the Aso Rock Villa.
According to Kanu, it is unheard of that while a President is still alive people fire gunshots around the Presidential Villa and his wife got threatened by aides.
“Biafrans prepare, we are going home this year by the grace of Chukwu Okike Abiama,” Nnamdi Kanu proclaimed on Facebook.
“Nigerians can now see what I saw and announced in June 2017 that Buhari is dead.
“Can you imagine the reports emanating from Aisha’s Aso Rock?
“Where are those [people] that said Buhari is alive? How can you forcibly remove a person from Aso Rock to the extent of involving the police when the man in charge of the house is alive?
“You call police, I call police…when the Commander-in-Chief is around inside the same Aso Rock. Does this make sense to anybody?
“Aisha is now issuing directives asking people to obey her husband because they know the game is up,” he claimed.
Not long ago, popular Nigerian Instagram blogger, Stella Dimorkukus revealed that Davido and Chioma have allegedly ended their relationship.
According to her, Chioma decided to leave the relationship even before the alleged new baby mama issue.
Sharing what she knows, she wrote;
I left his house because he doesn’t last long on bed.
Davido replied saying;
A popular Nigerian Instagram blogger and influencer, Stella Dimorkokus has dropped a bombshell pertaining to famous Nigerian power couple, Davido and Chioma.
Stella Dimorkokus confirmed the allegations by controversial Investigative journalist, Kemi Olunloyo that there is tension between Davido and Chioma at the moment.
Popular Musician Davido and his woman Chioma (whom he put a ring on her finger and welcomed a son with) are allegedly no longer a couple for now due to circumstances beyond their control…Or should we call it Irreconcilable differences?
Chioma talked about Davido when he was interviewed saying;
“I left Davido’s house because he doesn’t last long on bed to my satisfaction”.
Sweeping issues under the rug only works for so long.
After decades of being a therapist and lover of self-help books, I’ve come to realize that red flags of a dying relationship usually appear fairly early on in failed relationships.
For instance, most couples report that their relationship problems didn’t surface suddenly but are the result of buried resentment that can fester for years.
Likewise, when a couple splits, most state that their problems were never processed or resolved in a healthy way. As a result, they felt criticized or put down by their partner and say that they argue about the same things over and over (and over) again. In many cases, couples become detached and eventually lose fondness, admiration, and love for one another over time.
Sweeping issues under the rug only works for so long. Because when couples have deep-seated resentment, it’s one of the signs your relationship is over and can be a challenge to forgive and forget.
A healthy, intimate relationship is built on trust and vulnerability which involves sharing your innermost feelings, thoughts, and wishes. It’s important to remember that all couples have perpetual problems and can develop tools to deal with them.
According to author Claire Hatch, LICSW, “If you’re bottling up feelings of sadness or anger, you end up suppressing your feelings. You’ll find yourself feeling less joy and love, as well.”
In other words, if you can’t talk about the hard things, you’ll also feel less warmth and affection; and over time less fondness and admiration for your partner.
1. You argue about the same things.
And you do it over and over (and over) again and never seem to clear the air. You both feel like you’re the loser and that you often have to defend your position.
2. You feel criticized and put down.
This leaves you feeling less than “good enough.” According to renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, criticism is one of the main reasons why marriages collapse.
3. You have difficulty being vulnerable with your significant other.
And when you do, your worst fears are actualized: you’re left regretting that you revealed your feelings and desires.
4. One or both of you put your children or others first.
Therapist and author Andrew G. Marshall writes in his book, I Love You But You Always Put Me Last, “If you put your children first, day in and day out, you will exhaust your marriage.” He posits that many parents fall into the trap of putting their children first and the outcome is resentful, alienated parents and demanding, insecure children.
5. You don’t enjoy each other’s friends or families.
So you begin socializing away from one another. This may start out as an occasional weeknight out. But if not nipped in the bud, it can spill over into weekends — ideally when couples have an opportunity to spend more time together.
6. You have ghosts from past relationships that surface because they were not dealt with.
You may overreact to fairly innocent things your partner says or does because it triggers a memory from a past relationship.
7. Your needs for sexual intimacy are vastly different and/or you rarely have sex.
Relationship expert Cathy Meyer says, “Whether it is him or you that has lost interest, a lack of regular intimacy in a marriage is a bad sign. Sex is the glue that binds; it is the way adults play and enjoy each other.”
8. You and your partner have fallen into a pursuer-distancer pattern.
This is one of the main causes of divorce. Over time, it erodes the love and trust between you because you’ll lack the emotional and sexual intimacy that comes from being in harmony with each other.
9. When you disagree, you seldom resolve your differences.
You fall into the trap of blaming each other and fail to compromise or apologize. As a result, you experience less warmth and closeness. What are the best ways to break the negative pattern of relating that can lead to the demise of your relationship? First of all, it’s important to become conscious of your expectations.
Dr. Brené Brown suggests, “The fastest way for an expectation to morph into shame or resentment is for it to go unnoticed.” Dr. Brown also recommends that we drop or prerequisites for feeling worthy based on conditions, such as having our partner’s approval or a perfect relationship.
1. Stop criticizing your partner.
Talking about specific issues will reap better results than attacking your partner. For instance, a complaint is: “I’m upset because you didn’t tell me about the phone call from your ex. We agreed to be open with each other.” Versus a criticism: “You never tell me the truth. How can I trust you?”
2. Practice resolving conflicts as they arise.
Don’t put aside resentments that can destroy your relationship. Experiencing conflict is inevitable and couples who strive to avoid it are at risk of developing stagnant relationships.
Take responsibility for your part in a dispute. Avoid defensiveness and showing contempt for your partner (rolling your eyes, ridicule, name-calling, sarcasm).
3. Boost up physical affection and sex.
According to author Dr. Kory Floyd, physical contact releases oxytocin (the bonding hormone) that reduces pain and causes a calming sensation. It’s released during sexual orgasm and affectionate touch as well. Physical affection also reduces stress hormones, lowering daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
4. Nurture fondness and admiration for your partner.
Remind yourself of your partner’s positive qualities — even as you grapple with their flaws — and express your positive feelings out loud several times each day.
Search for common ground rather than insisting on getting your way when you have a disagreement. Listen to their point of view and avoid the stonewalling, which is shutting yourself off from communication.
The best way to create a relationship built on love, trust, and intimacy is to take responsibility for our own actions and to practice acceptance and compassion for our partner.
The truth is that all couples have problems, even the ones who seem like a perfect match. The thing to keep in mind is that realistic expectations and damage control can keep resentment from building and causing serious relationship problems.
The Lagos State Government says it has sealed 34 buildings under construction on Banana Island, Ikoyi, reportedly without building permit.
It said the sealing is an ongoing exercise commenced on Wednesday as part of efforts to regulate physical development in the highbrow area and the state at large.
Speaking to our correspondent on the telephone on Friday, the Commissioner for Physical Planning and Urban Development, Dr Idris Salako, said more houses without building permit would be sealed during the ongoing enforcement.
He stated, “The exercise continues tomorrow (today). We are not targeting any particular houses. The more we see (without permit), the more we seal. It is not as if we had anybody in mind. We just asked them to show their approval but it is unfortunate we could get that number. It is not limited to Banana Island alone; it is a statewide enforcement programme but we are starting from that area.”
The government had announced the development on its Facebook page on Friday, adding that the exercise would engender livable and sustainable environment in the state.
“The Lagos State Government, on Thursday, sealed 19 additional buildings in the highbrow Banana Island, Ikoyi. The figure brings the total number of property sealed in the axis for lack of building permit and other infractions of the physical planning law to 34 since the commencement of the exercise on Wednesday,” the post read.
Nollywood actress, has taken to social media to reveal that she carried out cosmetic surgery on her body to enhance her figure.
The controversial actress added that she prefers her new curvy body to her old natural body.
This she confirmed in a recent post on her Instagram account where she wrote:
“Where are the aproko’s that said surgery is not good ooo???
May my old body be your portion m, Rolling eyes…(if I slap you? Your eyes will shift🥵🤣🤣🤣)
#ProudlyAcosmeticsurgerybaby #ConfidentandProud #teamIsurgery #Isurgery #Cokebottlebody”
See her post:
Meanwhile, Naija News recalls the Nollywood actress recently revealed that her boyfriend is a Muslim. She in April 2020 after she took to her social media page, Instagram precisely, to wish the Muslims, most especially her lovers a happy Ramadan.
A follower had asked her after her post if she is a Muslim to which she replied: “I am a Christian, I live in a Muslim community and have a Muslim boyfriend…we good?”
Barbie Rapper, Nicki Minaj goes braless as she displays her b00bs after a recent music video collaboration with Tekashi 6ix9ine “Trollz“.
Nicki Showed alot on the new music video alongside lyrics but also came on social media to show off more after the song hits number 1 spot in 46 countries.
Her words: “#Trollz #1 in 46 countries. Love you. Thank you. Link in my bio to watch the video. Updated on TikTok. Video on streaming now. Clean version on streaming now. All new merch, including masks updated on my site now. NickiMinajQueen .com 🌈🦄🌈🦄🎀♥️🎉♥️🎈🎀‼️🌈🦄🌈🦄🌈🦄”
See photos below;
Davido has been trending for some days now after an alleged fourth baby mama called Larissa popped up online. Many of his fans have reacted to the story that popped up. Many suggested that the appearance of the baby mama would end the relationship of Chioma and Davido.
In a recent tweet by a twitter user identified as Kelechi, Davido is set to release a new song on Friday titled “Love” which features Homes Official. He posted the artwork of the much anticipated song and captioned it ….”I don’t know how to feel guys, having both talented acts on a song puts me at ease expecting a hit song & record”.
“LOVE- drops tomorrow, stay tuned”.
This Most anticipated song in the country – “ LOVE “ by @Holmesofficial_ ft @davido ( OBO ) sets to drop TOMORROW!!!
I don’t know how to feel guys, having both talented acts on a song puts me at ease expecting a hit song & record.
LOVE – drops tomorrow, stay tuned.
As it is already known on social media, Hushpuppi was allegedly arrested in Dubai together with Woodberry for defrauding an American state of $35 million.
We dug out this screenshot from an old video when Obi was arrested by the FBI in 2019 over $11 million cyber scam accusations.
Davido blasts hushpuppi;
Now that you have been arrested, I hope you will work as my cleaner after coming out of jail
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