There’s something that bothers me a lot. My question is this: How long should good sex last? Should it last 10 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 minutes or one hour? Please tell me.
How long good sex should last depends on the two parties involved. Good sex should last as long as you enjoy it and reach ecstasy. This means that if you have a quickie which lasts for only five minutes, and you and your partner reach ecstasy within those five minutes, it’s good sex.
So, the length of time it takes to have sex doesn’t really matter. The duration of how long sex lasts, be it for a long time or for a short time isn’t the issue, but a matter of personal and mutual satisfaction. You can have sex with someone for a long time and not enjoy it. You can also have sex with someone for a short time and enjoy it. Again, it depends on the person you’re having sex with.
Some people reach orgasm or enjoy sex with some particular partners while they don’t enjoy sex or reach orgasm with some other partners. So, it’s really a matter of personal satisfaction. Sex can be long or short, but what matters most is that you and/or your partner enjoy it and reach orgasm.
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The decision of President Muhammadu Buhari to recognise Chief Victor Gaidom, erstwhile deputy national secretary, south of the All Progressive Congress (APC) as the authentic acting chairman of the party, has been interpreted by many as a sort of betrayal to former Lagos State governor, and acclaimed national leader of the party, Bola Ahmed Tinubu. The president had as well, at Thursday’s National Executive Council Meeting summoned by Gaidom, dissolved the party’s National Working Committee (NWC), a development many interpreted to mean further undermining of the Lagos big politician who was very instrumental to Buhari’s emergence as president in 2015.
Tinubu is, of course, backing the dissolved NWC, which is loyal to the suspended chairman, Adams Oshiomhole. And had on Wednesday, released a statement endorsing Hilliard Eta whom the NWC had nominated to act as chairman in place of the indisposed Abiola Ajimobi, former Oyo State governor and then Deputy National Chairman, South who was initially nominated to act as chairman by the NWC.
Buhari’s decision thus means the NWC loyal to Oshiomhole and by extension, Tinubu, has lost out in the fight for the control of the party. And for many, it means an end to Tinubu’s plan to control the APC leadership in preparation for a certain 2023 presidential bid. To that extent, therefore, many see Buhari’s backing of Gaidom as a betrayal of that presidential ambition of the former Lagos governor.
To be sure, those who opine that Buhari’s decision means that Tinubu has lost out in the APC, and that his 2023 ambition is now effectively over, have a point. And indeed, it is quite possible that Buhari actually knows what he is doing in this regard. However, the idea that the president’s decision is a betrayal of Tinubu is incorrect. For the word betrayal to surface in this instance, there ought to have been an agreement between Buhari and Tinubu to the effect that the former would support the letter’s presidential ambition in 2023. But I know enough about the politicking that went into Buhari’s emergence as APC presidential candidate in 2014 ahead of the 2015 presidential election which he eventually won, to know that there was never an agreement between him and Tinubu with respect to 2023. Tinubu’s supporters were apparently assuming that since he helped Buhari to win power in 2015 and 2019, the president will reciprocate by supporting him in 2023.
Tinubu
Tinubu
This assumption or expectation of Buhari’s reciprocal support had, apparently, been the major motivation for the Tinubu camp in their unalloyed support for the president. But it was always what it was, an assumption. Assumptions are never facts, and expectations are never agreements. In the game of power, there is hardly any room for emotions. You get concessions by putting yourself in the position of strength and using that strength to negotiate your interests. In 2014, Tinubu was in the position of strength, could have used it to negotiate and force Buhari to make whatever concessions he wanted, but he didn’t. And once Buhari became APC candidate, it was over for him.
I know for a fact that in 2014, Tinubu wanted to be Buhari’s running mate, and had tried to insist on being in the APC ticket with Buhari. Whether he expected to use the vice presidency to launch presidential bid in 2023 is another matter. But with respect to the negotiations in 2014, he wanted the vice presidential slot. And although there was a bit of a controversy over the acceptability of Muslim-Muslim ticket, which was openly opposed by the likes of former senate president, Bukola Saraki, the only reason Tinubu did not run along with Buhari was that Buhari rejected the idea of having him as his running mate. The popular belief that it was about Muslim-Muslim ticket is only half of the story. After all, the APC was an alliance between North and Southwest and Tinubu’s religion would not have mattered in the Southwest. In other words, Buhari and Tinubu could have still won the 2015 election, their Muslim faith notwithstanding.
Buhari, I learned, only offered to have Tinubu nominate two candidates of his choice, so he could chose one. The core Buhari camp had expected Tinubu to nominate Kayode Fayemi, the current governor of Ekiti State and Yemi Osinbajo, with the intention of choosing Fayemi. But in the event, Tinubu nominated only Osinbajo and Buhari didn’t want to push it any further. That was, Tinubu’s stake, I suppose, as far as Buhari was concerned. This probably explains why the president snubbed Tinubu’s ministerial nominees in 2015 and opted for Babatunde Fashola, Fayemi and so on.
Osinbajo
Osinbajo
Of course, there is no denying that Tinubu was very instrumental to Buhari’s emergence as president in 2015. He was literally in charge of the Southwest, had control of the media, which he used to sell Buhari to the electorate. And Buhari who was always sure of 12 million votes in the North, needed just that extra votes from the South to win power.
However, one thing is Tinubu being instrumental to the president’s emergence, the other is the president appreciating this fact. From what I know, I doubt that Buhari thought very highly of Tinubu’s influence in the lead up to 2015. I’m aware that while Tinubu was still skeptical about the APC ticket, the core Buhari group, comprising then of Kaduna State governor, Mallam Nasir El-Rufai, Jimi Lawal and Pastor Tunde Bakare had done some polls and were convinced that the person they actually needed was Fashola, then governor of Lagos. Fashola, their poll had shown, was preferred to Tinubu in Lagos at the time. And of course, Tinubu and Fashola were not strictly in good terms. At the end of the day, however, a prominent traditional ruler in Ogun State intervened and convinced Tinubu to support the ticket.
The Buhari group, of course, could have underestimated Tinubu’s influence. But that’s a matter for another day. Yet, while Tinubu eventually bought into the ticket, Buhari’s campaign did not move as smoothly. It was alleged that he delayed movements of Buhari and son on, by arriving at the airport late. And that it was when then Rivers State governor, Chibuike Amaechi joined the APC that things began to move smoothly.
Amaechi
Amaechi
Amaechi himself, of course, wanted to be VP, and that’s where his fractious relationship with Tinubu began. However, it was obvious to Buhari from the start that a Southwest VP was his best shot. Amaechi couldn’t have won the South South for APC against Goodluck Jonathan. But evidently, Buhari preferred him as a person. This preference appears to be what is now playing out in the APC leadership struggle. Gaidom who is from Rivers, is believed to be Amaechi’s man. The former Rivers governor apparently still has VP or presidential ambition of his own and would view Tinubu as a potential challenger. This appears to be the crux of the crisis in the party at the moment.
After the announced death of former Oyo State Governor, Abiola Ajimobi,a trending video shows moment he openly declared that God should take his life at 70.
In the video, Ajimobi was spotted saying that his father died before 70 and that he has prayed to God take his life at 70. But as he approved 70 he realized that life is sweet …
A post shared by CHIEF DR DELE MOMODU (@delemomoduovation) on Jun 25, 2020 at 11:14am PDT
The 70-year-old, who had been on a life support machine since last Friday at First Cardiology Hospital in Ikoyi, Lagos, after slipping into a coma following Coronavirus complications, finally died on Thursday, according to findings by SaharaReporters.
A woman has allegedly committed suicide just two days after asking for help on social media.
The deceased one Princess Folashade Belo , a single mother of one, took to her Facebook page on June 19 to pour out her heart.
In the post, princess explained her ordeal about giving up hope, But many netizens did not take it serious as she ended the post with a smiley.
According to her friends and loved ones, she fell into depression and consumed some toxic liquids.
She left behind her young son called Cristal.
Her death was announced on Facebook by a counselor with whom she worked closely with.
She disclosed that she bought her self-help books in 2018 and was shocked to hear that she had taken her life.
“This pretty Lady by name Princess Folashade Eloho Bello took her life. She drank Dettol and hypo bleach
The story going round says she has a son and she was a single mum. Her friends said she was depressed. One of her posts she wrote how she was deeply affected by the pandemic during the period of staying at home, she had to eat up her business capital.
Hmmmmm so sad I feel pains for her son. I know being a single mum is not easy but you can make it easy by building a positive mindset with determination you can achieve your aims. Single mum know this even some married women are living like a single mum in their homes which means your case is not a peculiar one, most women are going through hurt and pains being married.
So don’t see yourself because I am single that is the reason I am going through what I am going through, sweetie it is all lies of the devil.
Life is up and down, negative and positive the ability to stand firm when facing negativity in life is what matters most.
“Say No To Depression And Suicide. Depression is Real” the post read
Some netizens also displayed sympathy towards the deceased
Check out some of them
Poor tributes poured in for her
Some just couldn’t understand what will make such a pretty woman commit suicide
There are many people fighting depression in this world lets be on the lookout for each other to prevent stories like this from happening
Liverpool Football Club has won the 2019/20 Premier League title following Manchester City’s 2-1 defeat fourth-placed Chelsea in tonight’s game at the Stamford Bridge.
The Reds, who stand at 86 points have won their first league title in 30 years. The Merseyside club last won the league in 1990 with Sir Kenny Daglish as coach.
Jurgen Klopp’s side, who 86 points, still have seven games in hand but have secured the title because if even second-placed side City win all their matches and Liverpool lose theirs, the Blue side of Machester cannot catch up.
Liverpool has played the best football in England this season, winning 28 out of 31 games, drawing twice and losing to Watford at Vicarage Road. The Anfield side have also set the record as the earliest team to win the title with seven games to spare.
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Popular Yoruba actor, Baba Tee real name Babatunde Bernard has come out to mock his detractors after welcoming his first child.
The actor welcomed a bouncing baby boy with his third wife recently.
In an Instagram post he shared, Baba Tee recalled being called “a serial lover and a man with small p*nis”.
He further stated that the birth of his son is a slap on his haters’ faces.
He wrote;
“Original kayeefi… Never Look Down On Anyone…. Oloko Keke Has given Birth to A Bouncing Baby Boy oooo… A Serial Lover is Married… Oba ti O Pa Egan mi re will Always Answer Our Prayers… God i Thank You For Putting Them to Shame… Anu ni…. Mo ri Gba…. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 THANKS FOR THE CELEBRATION FROM MR & MRS TAYO”
As earlier stated, this is the actor’s first son from three marriages. He first tied the knot with London-based socialite. Yetunde Oduwole, but their union crashed in less than two years with the pair separating in 2013.
He then moved on with second wife, Dupe Odulate, whom he married in 2015. However, this union did not last either as the marriage crashed in 2019.
The actor who is half Egba and half Urhobo acts in both English and Yoruba films.
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Every year an unknown number of children – most of them disabled in some way – are murdered in northern Ghana because of the belief that they are in some way possessed by evil spirits set on bringing ill fortune and bad luck to those around them. Children who were born with disabilities or deformities were believed to be harboring spirits.
The way to determine whether they would bring bad luck to the village was to make them drink a fatally poisonous herbal mixture that, if it killed them, would prove that they were possessed. The practice is the consequence of ancient traditions and customs and is shaped by poverty and ignorance in remote and often marginalized communities.
No one knows the exact number of these ritual deaths across Ghana, Benin, Burkina Faso, and parts of Nigeria, but some believe it could be in the thousands.
Children can be labeled spirit children for many reasons. For example, if a mother dies in childbirth if a child is born deformed or with a disability, or during a particularly difficult period (where there is severe poverty in the home for example) or even if a child is born as a twin or triplet.
In certain circumstances, the child may be labeled a spirit and in extreme cases, the child may be killed. These children are believed to have brought bad luck to their family or community.
It’s usually the father who pronounces a child a spirit child. In this part of northern, rural Ghana, it’s men who make the decisions, and the mothers don’t have much say in the matter.
If there has been an unfavorable turn of events in the village, the mother might agree that her child has brought bad luck. Sometimes, when a mother is very sick, they say that the child is trying to kill her.
When it has been decided that a child is a spirit child, the community brings a ‘concoction man’; this is a traditional, local healer who treats diseases. He prepares a potion of poisonous herbs, which he gives to the child, and five minutes later the child is dead.
Spirit children are buried in a special place, far from where people are normally interred and well away from the village.
The family doesn’t mourn the child as a normal human being. In three days’ time, the concoction man will come back to perform rites – to suck away bad spirits from the house. If the child was a boy he brings four fowls, a guinea fowl, and a goat.
If it was a girl he brings three fowls and a guinea fowl. The people believe that unless he carries out this process the bad spirits will stay around their house.
Sometimes the women are very sad. It’s hard for them to be pregnant for nine months and then be told their child is bad luck and they have to hand it over to be killed. But what can they do? They can’t do much in this society because it’s the men who make the decisions and say what is happening in the family.
Sometimes, when a family is so poor that they are not able to take care of a child or if the child has become so malnourished that they can’t help it, they label the child a spirit child in order to relieve the burden on the family.
The belief can affect adults, too. Last year a 70-year-old lady was killed. She was accused of bringing bad luck to a family. The concoction didn’t work on her, however, and they had to use physical means to kill her: they knocked her over the head.
For years, NGOs and the Ghanaian authorities have tried advocacy and education in an attempt to eradicate the practice but with only marginal success. Well into the 21st century, Ghana’s so-called spirit children are still being killed because they carry the blame for the misfortunes of everyday life.
In 2013, award-winning Ghanaian investigative reporter Anas Aremeyaw Anas set out to track down and expose some of those responsible for the senseless killings – determined to bring them to justice and stop the practice.
Back then, he wrote: “When I first heard about this I could not believe it was happening in my country in the 21st century. The practice originally emerged as a way for poor families to deal with deformed or disabled children that they cannot look after. These families approach village elders known as concoction men and inform them that they suspect their child to be a so-called spirit child.
The concoction man then takes the father of the child to visit a soothsayer who confirms whether or not the child is truly evil, without ever actually laying eyes on them. Once this confirmation has been received, the concoction man brews a poisonous liquid from local roots and herbs and force-feeds it to the child, almost always resulting in death.
Over time, this practice has become a perceived solution to any problems a family might be having at the time of a child’s birth. By blaming the child for sickness in the family, or the father’s inability to find work or provide money to support his dependants, these communities have found an otherworldly explanation for their problems. But infanticide has always been a crime against humanity.”
Now, five years later, Anas, spoke to REWIND about why he doesn’t want to show his identity, the dangers of undercover journalism in Africa, and what has become of the concoction men that killed those children.
“Most African journalists who do investigations have a series of dangers pointing at them. You just have to be yourself and think about how to survive. I came up with the beads that I wear, so people don’t see my face. I’m sure that some of my colleagues, in Nigeria or Malawi have other ways to protect themselves,” Anas told Al Jazeera.
Talking about the threats facing investigative journalists, he said: “Generally, people definitely want to point guns at you or some will try to kidnap you. And most of these things have happened; getting death threats and legal suits are normal, most of my colleagues in the continent suffer that.”
“There is nothing more frustrating than doing a story on someone and then walking on the same streets with that person. It is even more dangerous and that can easily end the life of any journalist.” “We don’t make stories so that people can just read them and smile in their bedrooms. We make stories that have an impact on society. For me, it is a good story when the bad guy is named, shamed, and put in jail. Many people have gone to jail as a result of my work and I’m proud of it.”
Anas also talked about the concoction men that he met during his Spirit Child investigation. “A legal process was started but they were too old, so at the time that the process could finish, some of them couldn’t even make it to court. But the key thing that happened in that story is that it told the community that whoever you are when you attempt to do some of these things, you are going behind bars.”
“For the first time, those witch doctors were arrested and put before a court. That sends a strong signal to all witch doctors to be careful, that when you are dealing with the life of a child it’s a completely different matter. And we can’t sit down for these children to be killed in the way they are being killed.”
The ruling All Progressives Congress, APC has dissolved the National Working Committee of the Party, POLITICS NIGERIA has learned.
The National leader of the party, Bola Ahmed Tinubu wields influence over the Party’s NWC. It was dissolved during the National Executive Committee meeting held today in Aso-rock.
Giadom announced during the meeting that a caretaker committee has been set up, which will be chaired by Mai-Mala Buni, governor of Yobe state. Buni was immediately sworn in by Abubakar Malami, attorney-general of the federation (AGF).
This development has also been confirmed by Presidential aide, Bashir Ahmad. He tweeted;
“BREAKING: The National Working Committee (NWC) of the APC has been dissolved, the decision has just been taken at the ongoing Party’s NEC Meeting.”
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