Relationships can go two ways, good or bad. Everyone desires the good, but some end up with bad experiences. Generally, there is always a lesson learned from both. 

Where guys are concerned, they often bite more than they can chew. This isn’t in any way as dramatic as ‘getting involved with a runs girl or an abusive woman’. Whereas, it’s as simple as ‘what he finds out after getting into a relationship.’ When you’re in a good relationship, you act differently; you think as part of a team, not as an individual anymore. 

Humans are social beings who often thrive in solitude. They stay alone for so long, they have no clue what they are missing – or what they should miss – from being in a romantic relationship. Whatever the case may be, it’s a lot and we have a load down on everything.

Things a boy finds out only after he gets hooked

1. The fat word is an abomination 

Men have learned the hard way never to tell a girl she is getting fat. Even saying words that are similar is a crime. Don’t ever say, “You are adding weight”, but it’s better to say nothing at all. If she asks you, “Am I getting fat?”, RUN! It’s a trap.

2. You actually need more stuff in your life

Before dating, men tend to think they are okay with their lives just the way it is. They don’t get eager to shop for ‘unnecessary’ stuff like, a lamp, new kitchen wares, and even a bed (don’t be surprised). Many bachelors think it’s cool to sleep on a mattress and what nots. But ladies in their lives open their eyes to things that actually makes his house a home.

3. Birthdays are important

Growing up gives you the misconception that celebrating birthdays are for wimps. Well, wait till you meet the right woman. She will make your birthday feel like the best day of the year – the only thing that can beat that is hers. You dare not forget her birthday, it’s a crime. 

4. Be her friend first, before her lover

Ladies like being around their friends so they can do what they do best – talk. You don’t want to be that person she runs from when she wants a friend, because you can’t be that person for her. Having a girlfriend teaches you that you’re more that the lover. It takes that friendship to keep the relationship going, and the sexual tension and sex to keep it steaming. They both work hand in hand.

5. Zee World isn’t so bad

If she’s a fan of soap operas then it’s time to start getting used to it. Most men find themselves ‘caught up’ in a television show by ‘accident’. But who are we kidding, Telemundo and Zee World are for the cool kids.

6. The way you look matters

Just as you like having her look good by you, she reminds you that she wants that too. Having a girlfriend makes you put the extra effort in not looking like you were pulled through the mud and then thrown in trash before the pigs found you (not a pleasant description, yeah). Take note of the word here ‘girlfriend’, because when things get serious ‘like marriage’ it’s gone with the wind with putting too much effort in your appearance. What’s the deal with that?

7. Cooking is fun, too! 

The kitchen may have seemed like that place for warming already made dishes, but soon you’ll realise what those pots are really used for – and it would be fun. 

8. Show your feelings

There is one way to say, “I love you”, but many ways to show it. When you get a girlfriend, this is one thing you’ll learn. She stops wanting to hear it, and starts looking out for you to show it. You could call it the show and tell of love. Don’t hold back from those little gestures of love – she wants it and more.

9. Arguing sucks, but it works

An argument can either build or destroy a relationship. Whatever the outcome is, bottling things up is more harmful than good. If you don’t argue, you are walking on eggshells and it only makes it seem like you don’t really care. Imagine a colleague offends you, rather than raising the roof, you let it slide. That shouldn’t be the case in a relationship. Having a girlfriend teaches you that sometimes arguments build bridges. 

10. “Your money, is our money”

When you get hooked into a relationship, everything you thought was yours, becomes ‘ours’. She expects you to become the gift that keeps giving. Even if she doesn’t need it, or rejects it, she wants you to offer it.