Relationships are built on trust, and secrets are a big trust breaker. There are some secrets that are withheld for benevolent reasons. However, the truth still reigns supreme regardless of whatever reason it may be. Anything that can’t be shared with your partner could be the very same thing that will break your relationship. 

It’s natural to want to keep some things to yourself. According to research, 60% of people have kept a secret from a partner at some point. But there’s a thin line between mystery and privacy. If you don’t let your partner in, then they will remain out. 

People keep secrets for different reasons. Some do it because they believe their partner can’t handle the truth. Others may keep secrets because they believe the truth would make matters worse. We tend to make a lot of assumptions where truths and secrets are concerned. 

Still, one needs to consider the status of that relationship. Ask yourself where you’re headed. Is your relationship long term or just a casual hookup? If you aren’t looking at going long term, then it’s okay to keep your dirty little secrets. But if you want to make the relationship work, then you should think about getting all the hidden skeletons out. 

Okay, maybe not ‘all’ of them. But these six secrets are unforgivable, and if you’re guilty, start spilling! 

1. Financial problems 

What are you thinking? That some billionaire will just drop off one Ghana Must Go bag at your doorstep? Or maybe you believe someone would resolve all your financial issues out of the blues and she’ll never be the wiser. Wake up and smell the rain oga or aunty! Let your partner know your financial status. You don’t have to be specific with the amount if you don’t want to, but speak out about what you’re going through. 

2. Health status 

This goes two ways: One, are you healthy mentally (depression, bipolar, etc); and two, are you physically healthy and able to conceive? Often couples end up finding out that their spouse is barren or has a low sperm count. If this had been sorted earlier, then it wouldn’t have been an issue. 

3. Infidelity 

This is one beans you need to spill. If you’ve watched cliche Nigerian movies, you must have seen reality depicted where someone cheats and keeps it a secret. Sexing is even a long way in cheating. If you happen to ‘kiss’ someone who isn’t your partner, spill that bean. Tell the truth irrespective of the condition surrounding the kiss. This may end your relationship, but what matters is that you were open and honest. 

4. Unhappy in bed 

There are people who fake an orgasm and if you’re one of them, this may be a deal breaker. This is one of those secrets you say you’re keeping to save your partner’s dignity. However, you need to be honest. What if the problem is not with your partner but you? Or what if you need to tell the truth so you can ‘both’ work out more adventurous ways to make sex an event? 

5. Addiction 

This doesn’t have to be a hard substance, and could be alcohol, pornography or even sex. Whatever it is you’re addicted to should be shared with your spouse. If they walk away, you will meet someone who will support you as you find help. Just don’t leave it until things go too far to turn back. If you are in that situation then chances are the truth has been revealed without you trying because addictions are difficult to hide. 

6. Family history 

You are getting serious in your relationship, and usually when things get serious the family gets involved. Keep nothing hidden about your family before it’s too late. Otherwise you would find yourself caught in a web of more lies. If your father was a criminal, mother was a prostitute and you have 50 extended siblings, spill that bean! 

There are several more secrets people keep, so if you have some to spill, share them with us. Remember to share this post, subscribe and let’s keep the BUZZ going!